An Open Letter to my Pregnant Friend

My sweet, sweet friend,

You probably don’t realize this, and probably never will, but what you’ve done has had a profound impact on my life and our friendship. You have shown me such respect and love, and for that, I cannot thank you enough.

Pregnancy announcements are hard sometimes, and you knew that. That’s why you took the time to carefully share the news of your own pregnancy with me. I know it was shared carefully and thoughtfully because it took you 21 minutes to reply to me after you said you had news. For 21 minutes I watched the little grey dots appear and disappear from my screen as you typed and retyped your message. Truthfully, I knew what you were going to say before you said it. But yet, I waited. 

You gently and eloquently delivered news you knew could be a crushing blow to my emotions. You stated that you didn’t want me to distance myself. You acknowledged my infertility and my journey. You selflessly put my feelings before your own. You are the very definition of the kind of person I want supporting me during this wait.

I don’t think the sadness ever goes away for myself. The disappointment as I wait my turn in the never ending line outside the gates of motherhood. But thankfully I’ve learned through my surrendering of my journey to God, that babies are all meant to be celebrated. I will want my precious baby to be celebrated. I would be doing you an injustice as your friend to not give you the same love and support as I will want from you. Your baby is a miracle, a gift from the Lord, and I cannot wait to celebrate this new life with you!

God has used you in many ways in my life, but this has to be one of my favorites. The tenderness and kindness you exhibited are breathtaking. It may not seem like a big deal to most, but for me, it was everything. You respected me as your friend and as a mama in the making to make this announcement personal and sensitive. You, my friend, are a blessing in my life. Thank you for respecting me. Thank you for understanding. Thank you for acknowledging my journey. Thank you for loving and supporting me. But most of all, thanks for simply being you.

All my love,


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